Inevitable

Inevitable

If this moment is inevitable, why do we keep visiting past?

If this moment is inevitable, why do we predict the future

Hence, it’s always better to invite the happiness at this moment.

Don’t carry baggage of thoughts. Certain moments we spent with our loved ones acts like energy inductors. 

Please revisit. I know It’s inevitable for you too

PHD

Philosophy of Dearness

When I coined the term “Philosophy of Dearness” and wanted to check if there is something already on the social spectrum. Interestingly the google was suggesting “Philosophy of Darkness”. This gave me a lot of inquisitiveness to write about it and its relevance to dearness and there by its relevance to Happiness

The whole cosmos has born out of darkness. Practically speaking, we never had an opportunity to experience the real darkness in our day-to-day lives. When power is off, the candle light (or UPS) gives us the direction. Parents show the light of path to children by taking loads of responsibility. Father books a Tatkal ticket to his daughter; mother stores extra pocket money in kitchen for her son. Boy friend takes more care of his girl than himself; Teacher preaches more about life skills of his students than his children.

When I look upon above these above acts, there is one common thread that keeps all intact is – Dearness. Because of our dearness to someone, we tend it takeout the darkness from the situation. I firmly believe no one can remove darkness in our lives, because it’s natural and purest form. But one can bring the light through various acts in ones’ life.

Relationships give more emphasis on Dearness. Sometimes it’s difficult to gage its connection with an individual. But the common cord of dearness that plays a soothing music between.  

When I was pursuing my PhD, it was full of darkness. Applied and got rejected without knowing the reasons. Again applied and got its acceptance due to dearness. After its manifold directions, I could complete the PhD. The only factor that made me to complete the task was…my dearness to darkness. My special thanks to SCSVMV University, FICCI & my association with corporate India and for their guidance in dark.

Darkness creates manifold of happiness. It’s just in the room of dearness. Access it

Happy Reading

Politics of Happiness

Dear Folks,

Though I haven’t penned my thoughts on happiness in the year 2013, but want to fill the gap of these 12 months with one write-up on Politics of Happiness!

2013 was somehow for me an acuminous year with lot of vacuum in it. Started thinking in a mystic way; especially after attending 3 day workshop of Sadhguru. Had some sleepless nights at hospitals and some oversleeping days during weekends due to family hiccups. In fact I was placed like a flying kite till May 14, 2013 and suddenly the God-fall (windfall) has taken away the thread that was holding kite with love, affection and affirmative vibes. Surprisingly, the kite is still on and busy with its professional and personal antics.

This reminds me that nothing stops you and me, the time shows us a way and answers to all the queries we have. What I have learned from the demise of my mother is to accept the fact. The fact is that our lives are straight-line with lots curves in it; straight-line has a beginning and ending with a constant called happiness. Search the happiness which is within you.

Being a constant observer of politics among various dimensions like – political politics, family politics, and organization politics and so on; this idea takes me a cue to write on this. My childhood stint at Vizianagaram reminds me about those women who used finish their work much before sun touches his own mother land. They used to sit on “Arugu” (modern name called - balconies of their home) and watch what’s happening around them. Some give advises; some poke into lives of neighbor to make their life nightmare etc. if you observe all they derive is happiness out of wellbeing (not wellbeing too).

Similarly my stint as student, I observe similar scenarios in breeding happiness out of my peers’ wellbeing (not wellbeing too); in both aforesaid scenarios, either of the parties captures the happiness.

Coming to most important life, being working in an office environment and generate fun out of colleagues. Here I differ the outcome of happiness from the above two examples; the above two examples are more part of human eco system. Where as in a professional environment it appears to be saving one’s own cushion by throwing thorns at others seat. It is also called as Politics of Happiness! Don’t we/our peers / our managers stalk our happiness without politics? The answer could be - we brew happiness based on prejudice, self assessment/ fabrication of issues / interest / protection our jobs (work/assignment etc). I may have to rethink/accept that – the happiness is completely depending upon the external & internal environments where we govern our activities. 

For example, I was surprised (J) to see AAP which was dead against Congress rule in Delhi and so as BJP elsewhere. Where and how AAP’s happiness has brewed to make congress happy (or Delhi Happy) need to observe with pinch of salt. But watching these elections or above stated examples are politics of Happiness. It has become a learning place for many :)  

Is Politics an ingredient of our Happiness? J, just leave your comments with Happiness

Happy New Year and God bless with lots Happiness, Good Health, Wealth and Welfare to all mankind 

Going that extra mile is a happy mile

Going that extra mile is a happy mile…

Hello my dear happy bloggers and blog readers! Its being a very long time since I inked my ideas at Happy Junction. Happy 2012…

For last few days…I have been virtually on cycle (motor) and breaking at various places with in the city and at times out of the city. The purposes are many, some for good and some for bad. These purposes are predominately on personal end….here you go and ask my self “why this “Kolavari di?”

The answer for above question…the answer was echoing me as ‘cycle’; again I asked for myself, its again echoing as same synonym “wheel”…again I tried and this time it was echoing as “ball”; its was surprising for me too! As usual got little deep into these answers…

• Technically our mother earth it self is like a ball and works like cycle (clock time, seasons etc) and of course with little variations

• During parenting times we roll on with kids and live with permutation and combinations of Yes, No to make them happy and grow healthy.

• When we roll on with our work …which one to prioritize between personal and professional, between activity to activity and at times among bundle of issues.

More importantly when we meet people and their ideologies, it’s again rolling our minds for which one to accept and which one to deny. At times we are the benefactors of these subject matters and at times we do use tissues to solve these issues. For example, relative of mine badly needed my support to have passport on tatkal. There were some major discrepancies which gave me some kind of speed breakers till the final submission and acceptance by passport office. If I do there could be one issue, if I don’t do…another tissue. But going that one extra mile of finishing the task gave me a sense of happiness.

Unfortunately this morning I attended a death ceremony and found people around that person bargaining with an ambulance driver for about few rupees to pay. Interestingly the person who bargained didn’t even paid single penny for anything. But still his (most of us too) ideas and ideologies run around that. Can’t we go that extra mile to give happiness to driver of the last journey? Can’t we go that extra mile to give happiness to our customers? Can’t we go that extra mile to give a smile to your friends, colleagues, relatives and companies that we associate…? Are we scared of the quantum of extra mile???...love that extra mile.

I always tried doing cycling for that extra mile with lot of constructive and destructive criticism, as I said; I am a benefactor and most of the times I am not. But in both the scenarios…I am a very happy soul...

God Bless and lets meet-up soon with your comments...

Happy New Year

Dear Folks,

Happy New year to all my beloved readers of this blog. When I was keying in what to write this New Year, initially had the scarcity of thoughts & ideas. But suddenly a question came-up in my mind to ‘why do we wish’ at all in this New Year. There were occasions, I missed wishing somebody on their birthdays / or on festival days. But invariably we don’t miss to wish on New Year…why? Now, I know…same rat is moving around in your mind too?

On 1^st January, 2011; I was lost….and seriously thinking why…, in the evening, me and mother was watching series of programmes on TV. As all of you aware, we watch less of programme and more of ads. When I tried to distinguish between both from the point of content, both are more or less same. For example…Cadbury's Subharaambh ad (A boy starting his day by dropping a girl to her home, of course eating  Cadbury ) ; or hero driving 100 hours km/ per minute to catch heroin by trashing somebody  in a movie). Seems to pretty same. I told my mother that all ads and movies, serials etc from the ages concentrate on only one aspect and have been severely circumscribed by the concept of Love. Surprisingly, she agreed and reiterated stating that ‘love’ is not a recent phenomenon, but a very very very very old one.

Let’s swap to mythology for a moment, in Bhagavata Puranam, even “Madam Rukmini’ sent a letter through a bearer to Lord Krishna about her love. http://www.stutimandal.com/gif_bhgvt/rukmini_sandesh.htm (http://www.indianetzone.com/33/rukmini_wife_lord_krishna.htm) receiving that letter, Krishna went to Vidarbha to marry her after couple of deliberations (how to convince, how to fight when someone opposes etc). Apparently Krishna won the hearts of people and married to madam Rukmini on December 31....  

wish it was 3G telecom era, had Rukmini sent one SMS to Krishna , all problems wouldn’t have come… (I did…and got nice bashing call from my Rukmini :)

Back to our ad, I realized that it’s all about Love and making happy through that love, we call people to wish Happy New Year. It is a symbol of marring happiness; marring new relationships and marrying your loved ones, marrying lost memories etc. Since we can not wish everybody…very year…happy marry year, we wish happy New Year...this the Rationale behind Subharambh….

I wish this year….all of you marry to Mr & Ms. Fun, Mr. & Ms. Good Health and Wealth….make a blasting year of brightness with your goodness

Thank you

Yours Ravi Kiran

Hi Folks

Namashkaar! Namaskaram! Namashkaara! & Vanakkam

Busyness and Business go along with us to escape from the creative works that we would like to do. Take little time from both activities of Busyness & Business to make others happy. I try to make others happy, but invariably miss my Ms. Happiness.

Today morning interesting message was flashing in my inbox was "No one is born happy. But all of us are born with ability to create happiness...so today, make others happy, flash sweetest smile:)"

I believe the happiness is in us and outside. But both are Inter-dependently operated in every nanosecond in our lives; in fact it is more fluctuating than the ECG...just for example, I am very happy while… I buy something for my family folks, at the same time, feels pain for not able to buy for my other close friend(s) or someone whom I am close to...doesn't react to my feelings.. It means your happiness quotient has to skew either sides of positive or negative. I am not happy, I am happy are only objective replies. I reply saying am Happy, may be not. I do reply saying I am not happy, but inside celebrating. Happiness has multifaceted ability. Create the Happiness (from the above msg), but don't consume....because it was never meant for you...just like open happiness in coke ad…; but virtually you open your valet but not happiness J


Wish you a very happy and wonderful New year to all my folks, with whom I associated in my every hours of life / days’ life / years’ life. With out you…my thoughts can not be inked (wavering thoughts to wao thoughts). Will meet in our daily walks of life with lot more surprises and happiness soon in the year 2011.

Happy New Year and Happy Years ahead!

Yours Ravi Kiran

economics of Happiness

Fear fractures the Economics of Happiness…

Hello my dear bloggers and readers…

Due to fear of thoughts, all these days were fractured with no write-up of mine. But today when I was driving a car of 1850s (Tata Indica) along with 70 year old mother who always thinks as 17 and 40 year old brother who reflects his image in mirror as 80. Of course I am confused to say about my age since I may sail in both directions. My mother & Bro have to go to Vijayawada to wind-up certain financial commitments. As always we try to catch-up things last moment, booked a rail ticket in 2nd class where computer mahasay has given two upper-berths but not AC/lower berths(Thanks to Mamata Banarjee’s idea of 2 day b4 Tatkal), we wasted already one day due to India-Srilanka saga of cricket. Finally got confirmed ticket, interesting thing is that confirmation is for IRCTC but not to a passenger (my Bro). He has been coining the ideas of skipping the train travel to Road (by car). Whereas Google Maps were showing PoK / PAK floods submerged in Indian floods, due to this, the idea was dropped.

After got into train, mother says find-out a young person who has confirmed lower-berth ticket. Before I start working on her instruction, my little servant-maid (boy) already downloaded lower-berth occupant girls’ list. Alas, meanwhile, my bro was scratching his head ‘how to place my mother on middle birth’? I started requesting few fellow passengers; surprisingly I had competition here too. A lady was competing to get her cake first. In the process, I happened talk to few young guys (could be in their 30s), despite of my request, none could extend their hand. Their rejection made me to think about my close friend, who sees an opportunity to get-up and offer a seat when oldies travel; baby mothers who struggle to reach their destination (love you friend for your pro-activeness).

This is where; my mind & heart started talking each-other again. If I think about bro who is very caring but failed to understand the economics of happiness. He was keen to get down from the train after it shows green signal (after arrangements made at town). He is too shy to ask somebody who can offer a lower birth; the other guys think that their journey of lower-birth is forever. This could be because of fear. Don’t you think so…?

In first case, brother has a fear that he & mom has to struggle to reach the destination (my argument was driving car when inflation was high is not good signal), those uncooperative guys has a fear of sleep disturbance. In between the sandwiched mother has fear where she has to get-down from the middle-birth (if need arises). Even my friend who is proactive in offering her seat others also has a fear, where her fellow-passenger will struggle.

But finally my mother reached safely despite of all the fears. If we have to bring the happiness in our lives, we have to struggle for short time (I cannot measure); be it in journey of rail travel, journey of life travel. But conditions apply…that is the Economics of Happiness has to go hand in hand with extending hands.

Economics of Happiness works very similar to our regular economics. In regular one, it is more emphasized on supply & demand of goods & services with constant called Paisa. In case of economics of happiness, it is the supply & demand of emotions. It is more important than the other but has to depend upon constant called Paisa.

Good Times

Shelter shelters happiness

Dear Folks,

Good times!

Thank you for visiting my blog after a long time. I feel it’s difficult to pen-down our thoughts when we don’t find a perfect shelter. I strongly believe that the Shelter shelters happiness. If we have a good shelter, thoughts rejuvenates in to action.

Few weeks back I was driving down to my cousin’s place in Bangalore after finishing work in BIM Bangalore. When I kick started vehicle, the sky was blue, when I turned-down my petrol-knob to reserve, the sky turned to black and ready to hug with its cool-breeze and shower to roadies. Suddenly I realized I am not alone; with me there were few books and cloths also travelling. Hence I could not venture to get drenched. I was desperately looking for a shelter to cover my books at least. From a stones-throw away distance, I could see a lower-bridge and rushed there with my friends (Scooty n Books). Thanks to Bangalore Mahanagar Palike, who is the reason for such a fantastic ideas having lower bridges across ring-roads. I stopped at the lower bridge and waiting for the rain to stop. Even though it was raining, I could see some take the liberty of getting drenched, especially youngsters and couples. But I am happy, my books were safe. Now, my mind pouring the question called, what is this shelter and how it shelters happiness?

I am sure, you are also thinking how…

Just rewind the situation, if you observe, the shelter is not exactly the reason for Ravi’s happiness, but the ‘books are in safe’ feeling made him happy and fortunately ‘shelter called – lower bridge’ was part of his happiness. Confused??

Let me take you in different route, having sheltered at lower bridge, if his belongings get wet and damaged, happiness quotient would have been negative. It means shelter should shelter your needs and desires. Out of my curiosity I referred the meaning of shelter it implies

From the above synonyms, it’s not only protecting but also make you feel like heaven (happy). The connection between shelters versus happiness reminds me way back in 1997, where my nephew born and he was travelling like a NEWS covering apna bharath (Delhi – Kashmir – Calcutta - Visakhapatnam – Vijayawada – Bombay – New back to Delhi), just after few minutes of returning to home (Delhi), he had taken a long breath and gave a cute smile. (Note: all this happened when he was day’s baby and most of the time he was sleeping), observing this, I was astonished how an infant baby can give importance to his own shelter. I am sure; you all may have experienced similar feeling no matter whether you are returning from work or from elsewhere.

Just think little deep into it, our body, mind and heart (feelings) are connected to two kinds of shelters. One is emotional shelter and other is empirical shelter. To give more clarity, emotional shelters are more independent in nature but invariably depend upon empirical shelter. For example, if you travel hundreds of miles to see your loved-ones (by Bus, Train, Auto and taking lift etc), if that person does not respond to your feelings, interests and desires, you will be completely turned-off…not because you have sheltered in an unreserved compartment, but your folks are reserved with you.

Another interesting observation, my sister calls home every day and chitchat with mother for a long time. For some reason if she doesn’t call, my mother starts looking at digital clock and keeps her ears at phone (ring) and works at kitchen. Following day, Amma’s idly becomes Iddiyappam shape, dosa develop into Chapati shape. Vice-versa situation at sister’s place too. Here both are sheltered in their own respective houses, but their mobile / telephone didn’t bridge emotional shelters. Another friend of mine, if he does not make a call / receive a call from his partner, he not only looks at his wrist-watch but also twists his head to dry

Our emotional shelters are superset of empirical shelters. If both start working, all our shelter shelters happiness. Happy shelters will make you heaven. Otherwise it just shatters.
Let me find my lost shelters meanwhile…happy reading! 

Happy journey...